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I sincerely hope it is okay to post here as the parent of a child diagnosed with autism. His mother and I seperated soon after he turned one. While his mother was having an affair, I was bonding with my son and we were learning about the world together. Well soon after the divorce, we were still able to maintain a bonding relationship. Year after year, that time was been taken away and now his mother is saying spending the night with his father a mere 4 nights a month is too much instability for this newly turned 4 year old boy who loves his father.
 * **Monday, July 3rd, 2006** ||
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I am deeply concerned for my child and believe he needs both parents love and bonding. My plea here is this. Can we get a reliable second evaluation or opinion? I'm not ashamed of the diagnosis if it fits, but I honeslty think that my ex inflated mild emotional adjustments and her words were used to conjure the spectrum autism diagnosis.

My attorney and I are going to request a court ordered second eval that I will be included in. His behvaior with me is just as important. |||| **Friday, November 25th, 2005** ||
 * > [[image:http://l-userpic.livejournal.com/49184430/ width="1" height="1"]] || Welcome to...tistic Spectrum Community of Tomorrow

I've been entertaining this idea for quite some time. Back when I was in sixth grade, before I even knew there was such a thing as Asperger's Syndrome, our class watched a movie called "Free to Be You and Me" and this movie included a curriculum of classroom activities with various projects. One of them was to build a model of your ideal place. Years have gone by since then and my friends and I have often brainstormed ideas about our kind of ideal community. "Sometimes I wish we all could just pack up and live in the woods and get some compassionate NT to go into town and do our shopping for us!" laments one of my friends. And I agree. There have been many times that sensory issues have made the idea of shopping for me almost akin to going off to war as the world keeps getting noisier and more hectic. I despise and desperately try to avoid doctors offices because of my sensory issues.

But here we can share our ideas about what kind of things create a more "Aspie-Friendly" world. I've done a lot of thinking, living and learning about what kind of teaching methods and conditions would be used in schools to accomodate our learning styles. This is just one of many examples.

I realize this first post may be kind of sketchy and convoluted as several thoughts trying to simultaneously fight their way through a major bottleneck between my brain and fingertips, making this something of a tiring process, so I will post more later, in more easily digestible fragments when the time comes and encourage others to brainstorm ideas in the meantime.

I'd love to hear more about the kind of schooling experiences you believe you'd benefit from, the kind of environmient you'd like to live, work, shop in, etc. and feel free to share pictures and ideas about the kind of salubrious biosphere we'd all like to create.... ** Anne Frank, diary entry (11th April, 1944) ** Who has inflicted this upon us? Who has made us Jews different to all other people? Who has allowed us to suffer so terribly up till now? It is God that has made us as we are, but it will be God too, who will raise us up again. If we bear all this suffering and if there are still Jews left, when it is over, then Jews, instead of being doomed, will then be held up as an example. Who knows, it might even be our religion from which the world and all peoples learn good, and for that reason and that reason only do we have to suffer now.

Characteristics: date feelings first person

Criteria: informal words strongly reflect feelings over view of the day usually big events happen

November 13, 2003 It’s my fault… It’s all my fault. How could a shy, quiet and reserved child now all of a sudden have a DISORDER? Now all of a sudden have to be labeled as autistic, and go through life thinking there’s something wrong with him. I mean we all knew Ryan was different, but Autism? Why him? I took Ryan to the doctor because I thought there was something wrong with his hearing…when I spoke to him he didn’t look at me…he just seemed to stare off into space. I just thought he was having trouble hearing me or had an ear infection, I never thought there was something wrong with his brain. I got the letter from the doctor today. “Ryan’s tests showed some interesting results… I have included a brochure to help you learn and deal with the disorder”. How does anyone just expect me to deal with this…my 4 year old son has autism! I’ve heard about autism before but I never in a million years would have thought that it would hit my family, my baby boy. It’s all my fault…I could have paid more attention to him when he was a baby instead of going back to work so soon; I should have spent the money and got him into preschool so he could be around kids his own age instead of thinking I could teach him all he needed to know. I shouldn’t have gotten him vaccinated. I read that a shot that’s supposed to “CURE” all these diseases causes autism. How could I have let this happen? How am I going to live with myself knowing that my kid is going to have to live everyday like this because of me?

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