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Q I was on my way to the train yesterday and had just enough time for a quick stop in the Post Office. As I approached I noticed an SUV with its engine running outside the Post Office. I always notice that since I can’t understand why people persist in leaving their cars running when they’re not in them. As I got closer I was stunned to see an infant in its car seat. How could anyone leave an unattended infant in a running car, regardless of how safe a neighborhood they may believe themselves to be in. (And just 50 feet away there is a mailbox with a slot for people who don’t want to/can’t get out of their cars.) While I watched, a woman, perhaps the mother, came out of the P.O. and got in the car and drove off. I hadn’t said anything but I wonder, if that happens again, what should I say? A **//Alisa replies://** I totally understand why you are dumbfounded. And I applaud you for being aware of what’s going on around you. While there’s no shortage of risk-taking in this world, there is a shortage of alert and concerned people. As much as you may have wanted to speak up, this is probably one of those times when calling for professional back up is the more appropriate choice. Call 911, report the incident, complete with license plate. Even if there’s no issue this time, it’s worth making it official. A **//Gina replies://** The doofi-ness of some people never ceases to amaze me. I agree with Alisa about the action you should have taken. Plus, I would have stood close to the car to make sure no one came along and stole the car and/or the child. People need to be aware that kids should never, ever be left alone in a car. What happens when the child gets a little older? Little kids can drive you know. They learn from TV.
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**__ Example 2 __**  Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder Dear Dr. Tracy, Today, my boyfriend left for Australia from USA (where we live), in which he will be staying for 160 days. He couldn't get out of the trip. During this time, I will not be able to see him, and I'll rarely get to talk to him. He's the only guy I've ever loved, and I'm the only girl he's ever loved, so his leaving is extremely hard on both of us. The main issue is I feel as if his missing me will ruin his good time, so I was contemplating ending things so he could further enjoy his trip. This way, he'd spend 10-15 days being sad, then he'd get over it, versus 160 days of him missing me. I'm uncertain whether I should break things off, and get back together with him when he returns (if we still feel the same), or if I should stay with him and ruin his trip, but hope things work out when he returns. Dear Uncertain, Of course you shouldn't break up with your boyfriend to keep him from missing you. Missing you will be better than his feeling miserable the whole time he's away, wondering why you broke up with him and feeling sad. He'd feel much worse that way than missing you would make him feel Besides, missing you will be good for him and for your relationship. There's nothing like missing someone to make you realize how much you really care for that person and how much they mean to you. Let him miss you, and he'll come back better for it. Break up with him and there's no guarantee that he won't hook up with someone else in Australia and not be available to you when he gets back. So why take chances with a break up when you have everything going for you by letting him miss you? You wouldn't want to lose the only guy you ever loved by doing something so foolish as breaking up for no real reason. Good luck, Dr. Tracy **__ Example 3 __**  Now, two years later, I'm happy to report that I received therapy and treatment for my depression and anxiety. I am living a happy life with my baby girl. The problem is, I told no one outside my family about my daughter or the situation, even though everyone noticed my abrupt change in behavior. How do I begin to share my story? Will people be able to forgive me for cutting them out of my life during a difficult time? -- BEGINNING AGAIN WITH BABY IN TEXAS DEAR BEGINNING AGAIN: Because of extreme cases in the news, most of us are familiar with the hormonal imbalance that causes postpartum depression. A condition called //pre//-partum depression is not as well known, but is also well-documented. I'm pleased you were able to get treatment and resolve yours. Share your story -- and end your isolation -- by telling your closest friends about your experience. If they are truly friends and care about you, they will embrace and accept you and your daughter and give you the support you need after your illness. And if they don't -- then you will have to accept they are not true friends and go on with your life.

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  AUTISM TALK Dear Dr. Taylor, I have a 3 year old son who just got diagnosed with Autism. It was a shock to the family to see our young boy have this condition. So far life has been stressful going through all the tests and treatments and trying to adjust to this major change. Since we found out that he has Autism, my emotions have been out of control. I’m sad, angry, and I still can’t come to the conclusion that this would happen to him. Is this normal for a parent to go through these emotions? Is there any way for them to go away? Sincerely, Stressed and confused Dear Stressed and confused, I’m sorry to hear that your son was diagnosed with Autism. The bright side of this information is that you caught it early. It is easier to diagnose them when they are young then when they get older because you are catching before it gets worse and they completely lose all the information they learned so far. The emotions that you are going through are completely normal. There are five stages that every parent goes through. They are shock, sadness, anger, denial, loneliness, acceptance, and giving time to adjust. The time it takes to go from step to step will all depend on how fast you allow yourself to move on. Most of these emotions will go away with time. In the future you will be experiencing tougher times in your child’s life and you might revisit these stages again. The best way for you to feel better is to focus on helping your son. If you make sure he is happy and getting the help he needs, you yourself will see a decrease on those terrible emotions. Good luck, Dr. Taylor
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